As soon as you discover you are expecting, but are unsure if you would like to be a mom, you should start considering adoption. Do not wait until it is too late for you to start gathering relevant information. Let the following tips guide you to make the right decision:
Gather information
Start gathering helpful information early on. This will enable you to make an informed decision as to whether you would like to parent your baby or give it away for adoption. You can search for information related to adoption on the internet and chances are you will receive insight from other parents who made a similar decision in the past.
Contact an adoption professional
To get unbiased information on adoption, you should contact adoption agencies or attorneys who specialize in this field. Contact at least three professionals from different organizations and offices. If possible, you can visit one of the professionals and have a discussion about your options.
Ask questions
Ask questions to each of the professionals you contact and compare their responses. You will get to know each person’s approach and philosophy regarding adoption. You should ensure that whoever you choose to assist you respects you and your own right to choose what to do with your baby. That said; no one should compel you into signing papers against your will.
Fill out the paperwork
Each agency or attorney will ask you to complete some forms and share the same information with potential adoptive parents. Be sure to remain completely honest and open about the reason for placing your child up for adoption. You should also be clear about the health history of the child’s father. It is also important that you let the adoption professionals know what the child’s father knows (or does not know) regarding the pregnancy and your adoption plans.
Choose a suitable family
With the help of an adoption professional, you can choose a family. Ensure you have adequate information and control over the entire process. This will enable you to select a family that you trust and love. You should consider meeting the prospective family in person when you’re pregnant.
Keep in touch
If you like, you may ask the prospective adoptive parents to come and be around at the time of delivering the baby. During your earlier discussions with the adoptive parents, you would have decided whether to remain in touch or not and the frequency of doing so. Often, the adoptive family will frequently, send you emails or letters, and pictures in the first year and possibly a number of times throughout the child’s life. If you do not wish to maintain contact with the child or the parents, that is also an option to choose.
